When Did These Spouses Separate? YOU Be the Choose

In a two-part sequence we did just lately, known as Authorized Separation: A Blueprint Half I and Half II we talked in regards to the hallmarks of a authorized separation by spouses.  It’s a record of actually dozens of established components, and it’s utilized by courts to find out the exact separation date when the divorcing spouses themselves can not agree.  This is a vital train, because the authorized separation date is the start line for figuring out varied “subsequent steps” – such because the valuation of property and figuring out the quantity of any equalization cost.

A current determination known as Taylor v. Oliver reveals how very difficult it may be for courts, when requested to use these components to a real-life state of affairs.

And to make it somewhat enjoyable, we’ve turned it into somewhat problem for you (our readers).  We’ve got listed among the information and components that the court docket took into consideration.  Then you definitely may be the decide.

As background:  The husband and spouse have been each 55 years outdated.  The dated throughout highschool, then initially went their separate methods.  After a long time aside, they reconnected within the early 2000s and started residing collectively in 2004. They obtained married eight years later, in 2012, however sadly the connection didn’t final. 

The husband says they separated on October 15, 2015, when he moved out of their shared bed room.  This was after an argument with the spouse (the “Huge Battle”), when he declared that he was “achieved”.  Nevertheless, they continued to dwell beneath the identical roof, for monetary and parental causes.

After the Huge Battle, the husband stated their method of interacting modified:  They have been now simply two folks co-parenting; there was no extra interacting as a pair.

In distinction, the spouse stated they solely separated about 2.5 years later, on Could 1, 2018.  This was the date she began the method of shifting out of the matrimonial house.  Previous to this time the husband took little to no steps to separate, she stated, apart from transfer out of the bed room after the Huge Battle.  She conceded that their tone and content material of speaking was stiffer, however that was largely all that modified in her view.

The court docket was requested to make a ruling on which of those two dates was the right one, in legislation.  It thought of all of the information, however with particular give attention to: 1) the couple’s relationship after the Huge Battle in 2015; 2) a Draft Separation Settlement the spouse ready in 2017; and three) the interval in 2018 when the spouse began planning to maneuver out. 

After the Huge Battle in 2015

The court docket heard that:

  • The couple continued to cope with their funds individually, as that they had at all times achieved even earlier than the Huge Battle. (Actually this continued proper up till they every obtained attorneys, and to some extent, even after).
  • They continued to buy and share meals collectively as a household, lengthy after 2015.  Nevertheless, typically they did take their meals individually.
  • The spouses attended some shared birthday celebrations and household outings collectively between 2015 and 2018.
  • In addition they socialized as a pair on a number of events throughout that point – for instance to go to a neighbour’s to swim. (The husband claimed this was merely for the sake of the kids. He stated they by no means went out on their very own, as a pair).
  • They nonetheless mentioned doing renovations to their matrimonial house between 2015 and 2018. These included proposal round a household pool and solarium. 
  • The spouse continued till 2016 to do unpaid work for the husband’s enterprise, usually every day.  Generally she and the husband would have lunch collectively.
  • They went on trip to the Dominican collectively in 2016, to attend a household wedding ceremony. They shared a single lodge room (along with their kids), however didn’t share a mattress.
  • The husband gave the spouse a blue jeep as a present, in 2016 – a number of months after he stated they separated.  It was stored in his title, however solely the spouse drove it. (The husband testified to the court docket it was actually a present for the spouse and the kids, as co-parents).  
  • Each husband and spouse filed their 2015 and 2016 tax returns with Canada Income Company indicating they have been “married”.  The spouse first ready her personal return as “separated” in 2017; the husband did so in 2018.  (The husband testified this delay was to reap some alleged tax advantages).
  • The spouse was out of labor for the years between 2015 and 2017.  This left her financially depending on the husband, however he didn’t even speak to her about getting a job – not as soon as – at any time after the alleged October 15, 2015 separation date.

The Draft Separation Settlement

The court docket heard that:

  • On September 28, 2017 – almost two years after the husband moved out of the bed room – the spouse offered the husband with a draft separation settlement, based mostly on a template she downloaded from the web.  She left it on his mattress. 
  • Neither of them ended up signing the settlement, and neither formally employed attorneys till 2020. 
  • That 2017 draft settlement referred to October 15, 2015 because the separation date. When the spouse created the doc from the web template, she didn’t have authorized recommendation in regards to the significance of that date.  She picked it as a result of it was the date they’d stopped sharing a bed room. 

Could of 2018 (when the spouse began getting ready to maneuver out)

The court docket heard that: 

  • The spouses advised their kids in regards to the separation in Could of 2018.

Query:  With these information in thoughts, in your view when did these spouses separate?

The court docket’s Reply:  On all of the information, the court docket agreed with the spouse’s later date of Could 1, 2018.  It defined among the rationale this manner: 

120 In conclusion, I discover that the events sustaining separate bedrooms, and the dwindling of their intercourse lives, didn’t on their very own make them a separated couple, when checked out within the totality of the proof. I discover there are much more unexplained inconsistencies within the husband’s account as to the circumstances surrounding an alleged October 15, 2015 date of separation. I discover the letter and the draft separation settlement weren’t delivered to him in 2015. Subsequently, I additionally reject his proof that they honoured its phrases, though it was unsigned. Whereas I’m not sure precisely when it was delivered to him by the spouse, I discover it to be extra proximate in time to her asserted date of separation. I settle for that that might have occurred in 2018.

121 An alleged 2015 supply of the letter and draft separation settlement was a big a part of the husband’s account to help his date of separation. He went as far as to say it solidified his determination to separate. However he didn’t get it in 2015. This considerably calls into query the husband’s proof of a separation in 2015.


149 In conclusion, apart from his transfer to the separate bed room and the absence of a sexual relationship after October of 2015, there isn’t any proof that the husband took any steps to arrange for separation till after the spouse’s date. Particularly, there isn’t any proof that he consulted with a lawyer, in any other case communicated with the spouse in regards to the separation both in writing or orally, participated in a dialogue with the kids, or took any steps to financially put together, till 2018. And on the contrary, between October of 2015 and Could of 2018, there are particular acts of an ongoing relationship, such because the submitting of earnings tax returns indicating married, the acquisition of the Jeep, and the matrimonial house title switch. 

150 In contrast, in or across the spouse’s date of separation of Could 1, 2018, she moved out, delivered a draft separation settlement, had a dialogue with the kids, and altered the way in which she had been submitting her earnings taxes, with the husband following swimsuit. The events made adjustments to their monetary established order, together with how they paid their residing bills and the Jeep bills, and the husband made some funds for the spouse’s help.

151 For these causes, this Court docket concludes that the events separated on Could 1, 2018 with no affordable prospect that they might resume cohabitation.

How properly did you do, in adjudicating on this matter?

Full textual content of the choice: Taylor v. Oliver, 2022 ONSC 7186 (CanLII)